"But If You are Lucky, You Will Love and Be Loved"...

[Halloween 2011]

It only took Sam and me three years to forget our anniversary.  There I was with my baby at the grocery store checkout stand, well into the afternoon, digging through my purse to find a pen.  "Aha!" Having found it, I began filling out a check.  I asked the cashier what the date was.  "April 25th" she said.  "NO WAY!" I exclaimed, wide-eyed and incredulous.  "It's my anniversary today and I forgot! We both forgot!"

 "Oh, really?" She says, with a look that tells me she doesn't really care and she thinks I'm weird.  And loud.

When I got home I called Sam at work.  "Can you believe we forgot?"   I took his silence to mean that he was wondering if I said "we forgot" or "you forgot" before responding...

I think we did end up getting a sitter and going out that night.

It only occurs to me now, a solid decade (plus) later, that he may have actually remembered.  Maybe that's why he was silent.  Maybe he was testing me.   I mean, he's not the testing type, but I don't know.   I think people kind of do that early on in marriage, test things out.  See how it goes...what the standard is going to be.  Sometimes you do things proactively, sometimes you just watch and see what the other person does.  And then you decide subconsciously that, that's just how it is.   

Perhaps this is why we've never really made a huge deal out of our anniversary.  I kind of figured he might do the grandiose thing and he figured I might.  Evidently, it was okay that neither of us did.   Don't worry, I'm not going to say anything sappy like, "we don't have to celebrate our anniversary, we celebrate our marriage every day" - Because that's just uppity gross.  I mean, it's a good ideal to live by I guess, but anyone who makes such a claim is subjecting themselves to gag-responses from the married masses.  Or at least from me.

Not to say our marriage isn't a big deal.

'Cause it is.  I mean, I managed to snag this handsome fellow;

Maybe this year I'll have to plan something a little bigger...not much, just plan ahead a little. For fun.

After all, I'm not married to precedent.